How Honest Are People Really?

Two-Faced Individual – Where Is The Trust?

In daily conversations, people will often say, “trust me”, but do you?  Do people even realize what they are asking?  Sometimes including the word, “honestly”, is used when you know that person is far from “honest”.

Trust is a trait or character trait that was expected in most people, but more people are demonstrating that this is one competency that they do not care to possess.  In fact, more people will look for shortcuts or behavior that is more lucrative or self-beneficial.  Such people are self-centered and selfish.  They do not strive to behave in a way to be in the best interest of the majority.  Some leaders today display this image, causing more subordinates to lack trust of such “leaders”.  These young professionals say they lack confidence in them.

As a young child, I heard my father, an English teacher, tell me repeatedly to “say what I mean, and mean what I say”.  He encouraged me to choose my words carefully, noting each word has specific meanings.  “Do you say what you mean”?  Are we being honest and relaying our thoughts, intentions, etc. appropriately?  Do you trust your what Leaders and Professionals are saying?

A few years ago I remember asking a prominent politician “how does he keep himself honest to his fellow citizens”, and he told me, “I have to look at myself in the mirror each day, and I have to be honest in order to face myself each day”.  Unfortunately, I doubt that everyone has such strong “self-discipline”.  Instead, some feel compelled to say what they need to say in order to get approval from the people or gain their support.  You might ask, “what is so hard about telling the truth”?  Surely, people don’t lie all the time, right?

No, I doubt that they do, but it is likely that more people stretch the truth more than they want to admit.  At times a person may dodge the truth to avoid hurt feelings or disappointments.  When I was 6 or 7 years old, just beginning to read, I asked my father if there really was a Santa Claus.  His answer was for me to look it up in the encyclopedia.  When I turned to “Santa Claus”, there was a photo of a man in a red and white outfit.  Though I couldn’t read it all, I saw the name “Saint Nicholas” and assumed this meant Santa was “real”.  My father could have read the article to me, explaining more, but he chose to leave well enough alone.

Though we now have computers and “Google”, which can convey even more information quickly, for many people, being honest is still a questionable matter.  As parents find themselves answering more difficult questions of their children, the saying of “honesty is the best policy” is still a wise decision.  Many of the young professionals today ask the question, “can we trust our business leaders”?  Hopefully, you can, but each organization has standards for their work cultures and environments.  When choosing an employer, it would be wise to learn what you can about the integrity of their leaders.  Ethics and integrity are very important.  How important are they to you?  Do you value high standards?  Their standards can reflect on you!